I am so excited about this blog post below, it is from my good friend Tracy! I have known Tracy for years. We are from the same home church in Michigan, we lived in Tulsa, OK at the same time and she lived with my family in Michigan before marrying her husband Nigel. Every now and then I want you ladies to hear from other women who are walking out true beauty & purity. Here is a picture of Tracy and I at Christmas time with her son Issac. I know her thoughts on beauty will bless you!
Sometimes I look in the mirror and I don’t like what I see. When that happens I know I have been looking at what I want to improve about myself or I’ve been on some form of social media and have seen something I admire about someone, try to replicate it, and when it doesn’t work…I get frustrated. Then I think thoughts like, “Am I pretty or do I just think I am? Do other people think I’m pretty?” Sometimes it’s hard to believe what others say when they compliment me and I just think they’re trying to make me feel better because I truly am ugly.
Where do these thoughts come from? Why is it so easy to compare yourself to someone else when who you were created to be is so beautiful. Why is it so hard to see beauty in yourself?
I personally think it’s because we have been bombarded with the idea that to be considered beautiful, we have to resemble what the world considers beautiful and believe it or not, it is the complete opposite of what God thinks is beautiful.
1 Samuel 16:7 says: But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
Where does it say in the Bible that a big chest makes you beautiful? And don’t forget you have to have a tight butt, a perfectly flat stomach, perfect hair, and a small waist so you can show off your picture perfect wardrobe.
Do I love ALL of these things? YES!! Do I resemble perfection? Umm. No. I like fitness BUT I am not training to be a bodybuilder or a swimsuit model. I’d like to think I have perfect hair…..when I spend enough time on it! I love fashion, and think heels are the greatest thing EVER, so I am not saying you can’t desire to look good, and be in shape. We need to stop comparing ourselves to the world and striving to be like them. We need to take a look into the Word and find out who God desires us to be. What does He consider beautiful?
What is the point anyway? Why are we so caught up in what we see? All these things are so temporary. It doesn’t last. Why is it so important to remain pure and confident? I know someday when your older, you will realize that it will be harder and harder to maintain that “image” and you will be crying out to find out who you really are, flaws and all.
Now, I want to mention something. I thought it was interesting that God directed me to a scripture passage in Genesis 29:16-17:
16 Now Laban had two daughters. The older daughter was named Leah, and the younger one was Rachel. 17 There was no sparkle in Leah’s eyes, but Rachel had a beautiful figure and a lovely face.
This COULD be looked at as evidence that a woman with a beautiful figure and a lovely face is what men seek after. Leah, with no sparkle in her eye, was just the average girl who desired to be loved. Well, interesting enough, eventually Laban agreed to give Rachel to Jacob as his wife, but Laban tricked Jacob into marrying his other daughter Leah instead of the younger one Rachel, the beautiful one. Eventually Rachel also became his wife along with Leah, but Leah, or the “ugly” one, was the only one that was able to bear children. My point. Leah’s son Judah played a vital role in the coming of Christ, because the tribe of Judah was chosen over the others, and through that tribe, the son of God, Jesus, was born. Through Leah, the one with “no sparkle” in her eye.
In Genesis 29:31 it says, when the Lord saw that Leah was unloved, he enabled her to have children, but Rachel could not conceive.
When the Lord SAW that Leah was unloved, he enabled her to have children. God sees things a little differently than we do, and I want to challenge you. I want you to look inward. Really search deep in your heart, and ask God to help you discover who you really are in Him. He will give you the image you have been searching for. Once you grab hold of who you really are, there is nothing that can stop you from becoming everything He called you to be.
I am challenged everyday, and won’t stop trusting God to continue to show me that I don’t have to look around me to see who I am, I have to look within. It always takes the pressure off of trying to be like the world, and then I notice myself becoming more and more like Him.
Tracy Arnold lives in Tulsa, OK with her husband Nigel, their son Isaac, and they are expecting their second child. She works for a non-profit organization that mentors women and assists to deliver them out devastating situations while establishing herself as a traveling minister desiring to touch the lives of women all over the world and help them to see who they really are in Christ.