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Willing to See My True Self-Image

We are so influenced by the images that we see in the media to determine what is or is not beautiful.

  • The average American woman is 5’4″ tall and weighs 140 pounds, while the average American model is 5’11” tall and weighs 117 pounds. Most fashion models are thinner than 98% of American women. (2)
  • 80% of American women are dissatisfied with their appearance. (2)
  • More than 50% of high school girls want smaller hips, thighs, and/or waists. (2)
  • 80% of women say that the images of women on television and in movies, fashion magazines, and advertising makes them feel insecure. (3)
  • After three minutes of looking at fashion magazines, 70% of women reported feeling guilty and inadequate.

Have you ever felt that way? I know I have before. We as women look at the pictures on the magazines and then look down at our own body judging the image we see. But those images on the magazines are photo edited and air brushed. We as women judge ourselves against an image that isn’t even attainable.

Some people may think that this starts in the teen years but it starts much earlier.

  • 42% of girls and first through third grades want to be thinner. (3)
  • 81% of 10 year olds are afraid of being fat. (3)
  • Girls as young as five have expressed fears of getting fat. (3) 

I truly believe that self-image is something women of all ages face. Whether you are 5 or 85, you are fronted with it everywhere you turn.

The LIE: “If I can change something about my body, others will finally accept me and I will be able to accept myself.”

  • More than 90 percent of girls – 15 to 17 years – want to change at least one aspect of their physical appearance, with body weight ranking the highest. (4)

If I just had bigger lips, smaller nose, skinner waist… guys at school would notice me, my husband would appreciate me more, my kids would think, people would look up to me more. These thoughts are lies and hold no truth.

You see, no matter who you are, you are always going to see your outward perfections. Not one person has ever said ‘ I am perfect, I don’t need a smaller anything, etc.’  I think of Heidi Montag who has undergone numerous surgeries trying to become her image of perfect, and she still says she is not there.

In the 1950’s the ideal image was fair skin and a curvy figure. In today’s culture the skinnier and tanner you are is the ideal image. This is because standards of beauty are always evolving based on what that culture considers valuable.

So since culture is always changing, and the images we are confronted with are not even reality, how should we judge ourselves? The answer is by the way God see you.

Song of Solomon 4:7 ESV  “You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.” 

1 Peter 3:3-4 NLT says:  “Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. Rather, beauty is something internal that can’t be destroyed. Beauty expresses itself in a gentle and quiet attitude which God considers precious.”

God is after the beauty of your heart. Inward beauty is more important than outward beauty. If you are beautiful on the inside it will show on your outside.

To me the most beautiful women in the world are those who are beautiful on the inside. It makes their outward appearance ten times more beautiful.

1 Samuel 16:7 NIV But the Lord said to Samuel, “…The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

So embrace who you are. Know you a beautiful because you are a WOMAN of God. Cultivate and work on your inner beauty. That is your true beauty.

Be willing to see yourself the way God sees you.

Here is a prayer for you to pray concerning your self-image.

Dear God,

Forgive me for judging myself and thinking bad thoughts about my beauty. Right now I take authority over those thoughts and say they must go. I chose what you say about my beauty, that there is no flaw in me. Help me develop my inner beauty which consists of kindness, gentleness, self-control, goodness, joyfulness, faithfulness, loyalty, and being overflowing with love. Help me see myself the way you see me and not the way the world sees me. Heal my heart from every bad thought that either I said or people have said over me. Thank you for loving me and calling me beautiful.

In Jesus Name, AMEN!

I love you and I am believing for a generation of women to rise up and take a stand from true beauty & purity!

Love,

~Alyssa

 

(1)    http://www.pbs.org/perfectillusions/eatingdisorders/preventing_facts.html

(2)    http://wvde.state.wv.us/counselors/documents/Eatingdisorders.pdf

(3)    http://www.teen-beauty-tips.com/body-image-statistics.html

(4)    http://heartofleadership.com/statistics-on-body-image-self-esteem-parental-influence/

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